ARTICLE - Making New Year’s Resolutions Work for YOU

 

What happens when you make a promise to yourself, and then you don't follow through with it? Disappointment and a ding in your  confidence is usually the result. On January 1st we set out with the best of intentions, and then in a short time that positive idea turns into a negative. 

 

A survey shows that almost 1/2 of Americans set new year's resolutions, and only 8% are truly successful in achieving those changes. What happens to the rest of those who set out to make some positive changes? Why do we fall back into the old comfort zone patterns, even when we know they don't serve us anymore? How can we set ourselves up to break old patterns, and manifest our deepest desires?

 

The 5 Ps to peace, passion and pleasure are running to the rescue again. This 5 step process can be applied to any situation in your life to create a life well lived…the organic and orgasmic way. Let's take a look at how it works in making new year's resolutions.

 

Before determining how you want to begin the new year, PAUSE, and breathe into your lower belly. Do this 3 times before moving to step 2. This simple step will allow you to form your ideas from a grounded and centered place.

 

Step 2 is to PONDER what aspects of your life you would like to improve or change.  Make a list of what changes would create more joy and love. Get creative…maybe watching the sunset or sitting under the stars once a week. Spend 30 minutes writing down anything and everything.

 

Choose no more than 3 ideas on your list to make a PLAN. Your plans need to be simple and specific. I will start my day with inspirational readings at least 3 days a week on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday. Write it on your calendar from January through March. After 3 months, you can assess whether the idea brought you the desired result. You will have learned something, and can then determine what is next. Give a new idea at least 3 months.

 

The step of PROSPECTING is a key to setting yourself up for success.  PROSPECT, in this sense, means taking an extensive view and giving mental consideration to your change. Write down your compelling reason for making the change. What will it bring into your life? Place this on a sticky note where you will see it daily. Give consideration to what people will support and encourage you, and ask them for help. Create an affirmation or mantra to re-program your brain. Repeat it at least 10 times a day. Something like, "I make positive changes in my highest healing good and the highest healing good of all." 

 

And now you are ready to POP your happier and healthier self out into the world. We want more of your juiciness in the world…aren't you ready to make your unique contribution?

 

As we all step up and create the resolve necessary to change our individual lives, then we have the power to shift the entire planet to a peaceful, passionate, and pleasurable place to live. 

 

Are you with me? 

ARTICLE: The Holiday Version of Organic and Orgasmic Living

 

You may know of my 5Ps to Peace, Passion and Pleasure. Today, I offer you a special holiday version of this powerful process.
 
The first step to living a juicy life is to build Pauses into your day/week/life. You can not move with the flow of nature and squeeze the juice out of every moment when you are buzzing through life. Write pause on your to do list, think pause when you wake up in the morning, and most of all when you are stressed, PAUSE for at least 30 seconds before moving on to the next thing. Pausing to feel whatever is there for you to feel is the first of the 5 Ps.
 
The second is Ponder. So you pause…now what? Pondering is a BEing place. It is about noticing what you feel during the Pause.  It is critically important to be in non-judgement of what you observe. Don't even try to change the way you feel. All feelings are valid and lead you to your truth. Can you hold the space for your own truth?
 
The third P is Plan. The plan for organic and orgasmic living during the holidays is always the same. Simplify whatever plan you have now. Wake up in the morning and consider how you can simplify that day, write simplify 3 times on your to do list, and put stickies with the word simplify on them all over your world (bathroom mirror, purse, etc.). Your life is always more full during the holidays with the added extra fun. Make sure you can enjoy the fun without over scheduling.
 
Prospecting is the 4th P, and during the holidays it is all about prospecting for joy. Dig deep for what will bring you joy, and then honor it. Have the question rolling through your mind as an affirmation or mantra "What will make this joyful?" When you practice prospecting for joy during the holidays, the bonus is that once you learn the skill, you've got it for the rest of the year too!
 
And finally, Pop yourself out there in the world with all that beautiful joy. Smile and remember that life is lived in the presence of each and every moment.
 
Organic and Orgasmic Living creates Peace on Earth!

CBL#150 - Inner Beauty and Sexuality through the eyes of Pablo Solomon

Internationally recognized artist, Pablo Solomon, describes what he looks for in a model. "I look for a healthy, vigorous, confident woman who projects strength. She has a uniqueness about her, and I notice her posture." Pablo passionately shares what he has learned about women and beauty from pursuing the art of sensual women. His experience of the transformation of when a woman steps into her inner beauty and sexuality…"it is a wondrous and joyous thing." Click listen to hear the whole interview and Coach Betty's 5 Ps to peace, passion and pleasure this holiday season.

 

Pablo Solomon is an internationally recognized artist and designer known primarily for his drawings and sculptures of dancers as well as for soothing and environmentally friendly designs. Please check out his work at www.pablosolomon.com Pablo has been featured in 23 books, numerous major magazines and  newspapers, radio, TV and film. Currently he lives and work with his wife Beverly on their historic 1856 ranch north of Austin, Texas. Beverly was a model and then in sales and marketing for Diane von Furstenberg, Revlon and Ralph Lauren. She currently runs their international art and design business.

Recognition for Environmental work and design- In 2009, Pablo was featured in an article by Mark Anderson for National Geographic about his part in the first Earth Day. He has have been involved in conservation most of his life. His wife Beverly and he not only talk conservation, but live it. Their 1856 historic ranch in the Texas Hill Country is not only a state historic site and official Texas Wild Scape, but was nominated in 1997-98 for the highest award in Texas for land stewardship. They have been featured in books, magazines, newspapers, and on TV.

To learn more, www.pablosolomon.com.

Recently Pablo's design work has gotten a lot of press. Bunny Wong featured Pablo as one of 3 top American designers in her article on how to achieve that hotel sleek and serene look in your home for Woman's Day and AOL.

https://shine.yahoo.com/channel/life/11-ideas-for-hotel-inspired-decor-512286/

Defining Trends Magazine for March 2010 did a feature on how Pablo's work has been a major influence on the resurgence of Black and White in art and design.

Iyna Caruso featured Pablo in an April 6, 2010 article for Wall Street Journal https://online.wsj.com/ad/article/sir-living-historic

Home design magazine Growers and Nomads describes Pablo as the choice of major publications for "the designer to interview".
https://www.growersandnomads.
com/article/Incorporating+the+Things+You+Love+into+Home+Design

FINDING THE FUNNY - Be careful what you wish for…

 

 

 

 

A man was walking on the beach one day and he found a bottle half buried in the sand. He decided to open it. Inside was a genie.

The genie said, "I will grant you three wishes and three wishes only."

The man thought about his first wish and decided, "I think I want 1 million dollars transferred to a Swiss bank account. POOF!

Next he wished for a Ferrari red in colorr. POOF! There was the car sitting before him.

He asked for his final wish, "I wish I was irresitible to women." POOF! He turned into a box of chocolates.

CBL#149 - Sidney Andrews and Authentic Living

My guest, Sidney Andrews, encourages people to "Make a difference, instead of seeing a difference." Her compelling memoir documenting leaving her marriage and children to live with the woman of her dreams and a lesbian lifestyle is a story of courage and faith. She had to look inward deeper than she ever had before to find her authentic truth and then live it as an outcast initially. "The rewards are worth the price," she told me. To listen to the show in it's entirety, click listen below. It includes a WHOA Baby on how heads of models are being put on digitally generated bodies in advertising!!!

 

 

Sidney Andrews, author of "A Fall to New Heights,"  is a psychology graduate, retired nurse, motivational speaker, author and recipient of an Honorable Mention Award from the Hollywood Book Festival. She has a daily column called "Ask Sidney," on the Treasure Coast Happens, an online newspaper, covering the Treasure Coast in Florida.Her website is www.sidney-andrews.com. 

Her call to action:

Awareness brings knowledge, knowledge brings understanding, and understanding awakens us to living a life of compassion, tolerance and respect for all people. Look deeper then your physical eyes can see. Look at each other through the eyes of spirit.

Don't just simply judge another for their look, dress, lifestyle or sexual preference; talk with them and listen to their feeling, fears, hopes and dreams, because you'll find, they're not unlike your own.

Take on the challenge of living the best life that you envision for yourself, and allow others the same opportunity.

 

 

 

 

 

ARTICLE - Assume the Best

What would happen if you ALWAYS assumed the best?  It would mean giving people the benefit of the doubt no matter what prior circumstances may have taken place that would cause you to question their intentions. When you assume the best, you can actually create the space for the person to step into their best. 

Don Miguel Ruiz, author of "The Four Agreements," writes that when you agree not to make assumptions about others, you are on a path to your own freedom.  Freedom from the emotional baggage of the past, and freedom from the worry of a heavy heart. Can you feel how much lighter your spirit would be if you let go of trying to figure out what makes someone else tick?
 
Now I do believe that Don Miguel is accurate in the freedom of not making any assumptions, and I think it is a tall order for most humans. It happens so automatically and the bad news about that is, if you don't recognize it the assumptions start to pile up and you can lose sight of the truth completely. 
 
Making a distinction between what you actually know, and what you have assumed is a practice in and of itself. It is a constant inquiry of noticing whether you have clear evidence of the truth or if you have created a story in your mind of what you want the truth to be.
 
Why bother with this inner work of assumptions? It keeps your inner space clean and clear adding honesty and strength to all your relationships. Is that worth the time to pay closer attention?
 
Working with your assumptions requires you to breathe, feel your feet on the ground, and carefully look at what you know and what you are making up about the situation.  
 
To start practicing the work of busting assumptions, begin to notice what goes through your mind about others. When you enter the market or workplace, and greet people, what are your thoughts about the people you interact with? How much of what you are thinking is a fact and how much is an assumption?  The results may surprise you!
 
Now here is a giant size "ASSUME THE BEST"challenge. Your teenager/husband/wife comes home smelling like he/she is drunk. Assume the best. Start by expecting that they acted responsibly in getting home, and there is a reasonable explanation. Breathe (you can never breathe enough) and calmly listen. What difference would that approach make in the outcome of your interaction?
 
Let's attract the very best out of each other.

FINDING THE FUNNY - Circumcised !

 

A teacher noticed that a little boy at the back of the class was squirming around, scratching his crotch, and not paying attention. She went back to find out what was going on. He was quite embarrassed and whispered that he had just recently been circumcised and he was quite itchy.
 
The teacher told him to go down to the principal's office. He was to telephone his mother and ask her what he should do about it. He did it and returned to his class.
 
Suddenly, there was a commotion at the back of the room She went back to investigate only to find him sitting at his desk with his penis hanging out.
 
'I thought I told you to call your mom!' she said.
 
'I did,' he said, 'And she told me that if I could stick it out till noon, she'd come and pick me up from school.'