WHOA Baby - Commentary on Sera Beak’s “The Red Book”

WHOA Babies are sound bites I have read or heard that make me stop and pay close attention. Sometimes they make me say "WHOA Baby!!!"

I recently got turned onto a new author whose work has given me a few WHOA Babies along the way. Her name is Sera Beak. 

 

Sera Beak is a Harvard-trained scholar of comparative world religions who spent years traveling the world studying spirituality with Sufi dervishes, Tibetan monks, Croatian mystics, shamans, and more. She is the author of "The Red Book: A Deliciouosly Unorthodox Approach to Igniting Your Divine Spark," and "Red Hot and Holy." www.serabeak.com

She writes:

"Simply put, the Gnostic gospels are a collection of remarkable teachings that were written by Jesus' disciples but viewed as dangerous and heretical by the early (second century C.E.) church fathers and therefore banned from the official Christian canon. In fact, the whole spiritual tradition that rose up around these teachings, called Gnosticism, from the Greek word gnosis, meaning "inner knowing" and "self-knowledge," was outlawed by the early church; the church leaders even went to far as to attempt to destroy the gospels… No one knew what became of them until 1945, when they were found buried in a clay pot in the desert near the town of Nag Hammadi in Egypt.

Strict religious dogmas was to the Gnostics what a bicycle is to a fish: a useless unidirectional contraption. For them, ongoing divine revelation was what it was all about. If you were a Gnostic, you accessed this type of sacred revelation not by going outside, not by listening solely to others or by reading theology or by being dictated to but by looking inside and finding your deep inner self, your "self of your self," which was often referred to as a divine seed or a divine spark and which was believed to be the same substance as God. This experience of one's divine spark was a human being's truest reality, and it was cause for celebration by humans and the divine. You know, Jesus always said the kindgom of God is within you, so-maybe he was more of a Gnostic than the church fathers led us to believe.

…it's the sort of idea that would have completely upstaged and upended the early Church; after all, who would need a dogmatic religious father figure if people realized they already had the divine within and required not stern intermediaries (though compassionate guidance and support is always helpful) to to access it? They could find out what God was, just by checking in. Carl Jung believed that "one of the main functions of organized religion is to protect people from a direct experience of God.." 

 

This is a WHOA Baby to me because my work helps people rediscover their inner knowing and truest reality, especially around sensuality, sexuality and beauty. To understand how these thought patterns of resistance to our inner knowing came from is fascinating. It goes a lonnnnnngggg way back that we were encouraged to trust others before we trust ourselves. Today, we are being called to dissolve the resistance to our inner truth. 

It is time to restructure and reorganize our beliefs based on our inner reality. What does this mean? It means paying close attention when your life is out of flow and balance. That is a signal that you are telling lies to yourself, maybe something like "It's okay that I fake orgasms, he has no idea." Your inner truth is there to be honored or ignored. We get to choose.

This does not mean to become an island, and only talk to yourself from here forward. What we need from others is to empower us to go inside and then hold the space for us. You may find darkness, but I promise if you stay with it, you will find inner light and juiciness too.

Don't be afraid of your magnificence! 

ARTICLE - Ask for What you Want and Need

Excerpt from "Healing with Pleasure Medicine: PAUSE"

I became aware of this concept in an intensive leadership program. The actual phrase we learned and practiced during this eight-month intensive was, "Ask for what you want and need 100 percent of the time, and then stick around and negotiate." What we do so often is work with the needs of others instead of paying attention to our own needs. I know this habit well. 

There was a moment in my life where I was asked, "What do you want, Betty"? And I didn't have a clue of what I wanted in that moment. My life seemed to exist to take care of my aging mother, my three-year-old daughter, my working husband, to name a few. Yes, I was a co-dependent extraordinaire. It was the role that was very familiar for me. Such second nature, that I was in my fifties before I realized fully what was going on. I humbly say “fully,” as there's always more to learn.

This is our history. In the 1950s after World War II, many women in the U.S. stopped working for the war effort, married soldiers coming back from the war and started families. That was my mother. She married my father in 1942, and never worked a day of her life for compensation after that. My prideful father thought that was the best way to support and take care of her. Many women were happy staying home.

The underlying consequence was that these women communicated with children all day and lost touch with other women. And when we lost touch with other women, we stopped collaborating and creatively working together for community. The characteristic of collaboration is very powerful for women. It has been shown that a meaningful conversation between women raises their oxytocin levels (the pleasure hormone). Instead, we moved towards a masculine-based world and a competitive-based society. Women were dumbed down and self-esteem was sinking, so we fell into the masculine, competitive way of being.

In the 1970s, women even wore shoulder pads, which made them look even more masculine. In today's world, I don't know that men have it easy at all. Many women act like a man in women's bodies. To survive in the business corporate worlds, shutting down sexuality is necessary. Catharine Hakim, author of the book "Honey Money," writes that women have missed an opportunity to use their erotic capital in the business world. 

She claims we wouldn’t have these pay discrepancies between men and women if women could embrace their erotic capital and use it wisely. Women are sensual and sexual beings. Women carry the ability to bring beauty to the world and vibrate beauty out into the world in a way that is unique and wonderful. What would change if we were conscious of this truth, and also learned to ask for what we want and need?

Excerpt from "Healing with Pleasure Medicine: PAUSE"

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