WHOA Baby - Commentary on Sera Beak’s “The Red Book”

WHOA Babies are sound bites I have read or heard that make me stop and pay close attention. Sometimes they make me say "WHOA Baby!!!"

I recently got turned onto a new author whose work has given me a few WHOA Babies along the way. Her name is Sera Beak. 

 

Sera Beak is a Harvard-trained scholar of comparative world religions who spent years traveling the world studying spirituality with Sufi dervishes, Tibetan monks, Croatian mystics, shamans, and more. She is the author of "The Red Book: A Deliciouosly Unorthodox Approach to Igniting Your Divine Spark," and "Red Hot and Holy." www.serabeak.com

She writes:

"Simply put, the Gnostic gospels are a collection of remarkable teachings that were written by Jesus' disciples but viewed as dangerous and heretical by the early (second century C.E.) church fathers and therefore banned from the official Christian canon. In fact, the whole spiritual tradition that rose up around these teachings, called Gnosticism, from the Greek word gnosis, meaning "inner knowing" and "self-knowledge," was outlawed by the early church; the church leaders even went to far as to attempt to destroy the gospels… No one knew what became of them until 1945, when they were found buried in a clay pot in the desert near the town of Nag Hammadi in Egypt.

Strict religious dogmas was to the Gnostics what a bicycle is to a fish: a useless unidirectional contraption. For them, ongoing divine revelation was what it was all about. If you were a Gnostic, you accessed this type of sacred revelation not by going outside, not by listening solely to others or by reading theology or by being dictated to but by looking inside and finding your deep inner self, your "self of your self," which was often referred to as a divine seed or a divine spark and which was believed to be the same substance as God. This experience of one's divine spark was a human being's truest reality, and it was cause for celebration by humans and the divine. You know, Jesus always said the kindgom of God is within you, so-maybe he was more of a Gnostic than the church fathers led us to believe.

…it's the sort of idea that would have completely upstaged and upended the early Church; after all, who would need a dogmatic religious father figure if people realized they already had the divine within and required not stern intermediaries (though compassionate guidance and support is always helpful) to to access it? They could find out what God was, just by checking in. Carl Jung believed that "one of the main functions of organized religion is to protect people from a direct experience of God.." 

 

This is a WHOA Baby to me because my work helps people rediscover their inner knowing and truest reality, especially around sensuality, sexuality and beauty. To understand how these thought patterns of resistance to our inner knowing came from is fascinating. It goes a lonnnnnngggg way back that we were encouraged to trust others before we trust ourselves. Today, we are being called to dissolve the resistance to our inner truth. 

It is time to restructure and reorganize our beliefs based on our inner reality. What does this mean? It means paying close attention when your life is out of flow and balance. That is a signal that you are telling lies to yourself, maybe something like "It's okay that I fake orgasms, he has no idea." Your inner truth is there to be honored or ignored. We get to choose.

This does not mean to become an island, and only talk to yourself from here forward. What we need from others is to empower us to go inside and then hold the space for us. You may find darkness, but I promise if you stay with it, you will find inner light and juiciness too.

Don't be afraid of your magnificence! 

WHOA Baby Wednesday

 

A team of neurologists found that sexual activity can lead to “partial or complete relief” of head pain in some migraines.
 
The study, from the University of Munster, Germany, suggests that instead of using a sore head as an excuse to refuse sex, making love can be more effective than taking painkillers.
 
Their research, reported in Cephalalgia, the journal of the International Headache Society, found that more than half of migraine sufferers who had sex during an episode experienced an improvement in symptoms.
 
One in five patients left without any pain at all, while others, in particular male sufferers “even used sexual activity as a therapeutic tool”, they added.
 
They suggested that sex triggered the release of endorphins, the body’s natural painkillers, through the central nervous system, which can in turn reduce, or even eliminate, a headache.
 
WHOA BABY!!
 
Can you imagine a world where we look to our sexuality as a part of our medicine? 
 
I have mentioned many times that in the 1850s Victorian Physicians performed vaginal massage (orgasm) to treat female hysteria. The movie "Hysteria" documents this time in history which led to the invention of the vibrator. 
 
I have also been vocal about sexual wellness as natural ways to improve your immune system, cardiovascular system, and overall well being. 
 
What makes us resistant and hesitant to embrace this?
 
In my research and experience coaching women about their sexuality, I have identified the following reasons we resist the power of sexual healing. 
 
Religious training - interpretations of sex and sexual behavior by many religions teaching repression and shame. This has created confusion in enjoying sex for both young and mature women alike. And if you are unable to enjoy sex, it will not be a healing experience.
 
Reliance/Dependence on Quick Fix - our trained response when we have a health issue is to see a doctor or take a pill. When is the last time you were ill, and thought sex could help? We are also greatly influenced by the abundance of advertising pharmaceuticals.
 
Belief systems - We have not been exposed enough to the belief that sex can relieve pain and be healing, even though Marvin Gaye has been singing about it for 30 years. Our belief systems are formed by our experiences and what we are exposed to, and they can change in a moment. 
 
The good news is the seed has now been planted. Consider the side effects of orgasm, the next time you have a headache. :-)
 

 

WHOA Baby#12 - Five Secrets to Manifesting Healthy Sex

This quote was gleaned from the magazine, Natural Solutions: ”Multiple worldwide surveys show that 30% of women from teens to seniors, report having little interest in sex.”

 

 

 

 

This is a WHOA Baby to me because, as women, we ARE sexual BEings. When 30% of women have no interest in sex, then our society suffers. When women are not connected with themselves and feeling good, then there are a whole lot of children, men and women unhappy. Remember that old saying “When Mama ain’t happy, Nobody’s happy!”

Here are my 5 secrets for women to manifest healthy, enjoyable, fun and replenishing sex.

1) mellow out…start with 30 seconds three times a day to breathe and feel into your body (and sexuality)

2) free yourself from outcomes and expectations…let events unfold organically

3) live in the moment…let your body feel the sensations of the moment

4) surrender to the pleasure…yep, here is the orgasmic part

5) thank your body for the experience…don’t miss this step!

Notice that these steps can be done with or without a partner. Love yourself up, and then others will automatically love you up too. :) Why do we resist healing ourselves through pleasure? As always, your thoughts are much appreciated.

BE Light

BE Love

BE the soul you are in awe of…

WHOA Baby#12 - The Beauty in Chaos

My WHOA Baby this Wednesday comes from an email that has been circulating over the internet shining a beautiful light in the darkness of the earthquake and tsunami in Sendai, Japan. This was written by an American woman living in Sendai.

When we strip life down to the bare essentials, let our true nature show, only love and goodness is present.

Beauty comes in many forms and surrounds us everyday. Please take a moment to appreciate yours.

Blessings!

Hello My Lovely Family and Friends,

First I want to thank you so very much for your concern for me. I am very touched. I also wish to apologize for a generic message to you all. But it seems the best way at the moment to get my message to you.

Things here in Sendai have been rather surreal. But I am very blessed to have wonderful friends who are helping me a lot. Since my shack is even more worthy of that name, I am now staying at a friend’s home. We share supplies like water, food and a kerosene heater. We sleep lined up in one room, eat by candlelight, share stories. It is warm, friendly, and beautiful.

During the day we help each other clean up the mess in our homes. People sit in their cars, looking at news on their navigation screens, or line up to get drinking water when a source is open. If someone has water running in their home, they put out sign so people can come to fill up their jugs and buckets.

Utterly amazingly where I am there has been no looting, no pushing in lines. People leave their front door open, as it is safer when an earthquake strikes. People keep saying, “Oh, this is how it used to be in the old days when everyone helped one another.”

Quakes keep coming. Last night they struck about every 15 minutes. Sirens are constant and helicopters pass overhead often.

We got water for a few hours in our homes last night, and now it is for half a day. Electricity came on this afternoon. Gas has not yet come on.

But all of this is by area. Some people have these things, others do not. No one has washed for several days. We feel grubby, but there are so much more important concerns than that for us now. I love this peeling away of non-essentials. Living fully on the level of instinct, of intuition, of caring, of what is needed for survival, not just of me, but of the entire group.

There are strange parallel universes happening. Houses a mess in some places, yet then a house with futons or laundry out drying in the sun. People lining up for water and food, and yet a few people out walking their dogs. All happening at the same time.

Other unexpected touches of beauty are first, the silence at night. No cars. No one out on the streets. And the heavens at night are scattered with stars. I usually can see about two, but now the whole sky is filled.

The mountains are Sendai are solid and with the crisp air we can see them silhouetted against the sky magnificently.

And the Japanese themselves are so wonderful. I come back to my shack to check on it each day, now to send this e-mail since the electricity is on,and I find food and water left in my entranceway. I have no idea from whom, but it is there. Old men in green hats go from door to door checking to see if everyone is OK. People talk to complete strangers asking if they need help. I see no signs of fear. Resignation, yes, but fear or panic, no.

They tell us we can expect aftershocks, and even other major quakes, for another month or more. And we are getting constant tremors, rolls, shaking, rumbling. I am blessed in that I live in a part of Sendai that is
a bit elevated, a bit more solid than other parts. So, so far this area is better off than others. Last night my friend’s husband came in from the country, bringing food and water. Blessed again.

Somehow at this time I realize from direct experience that there is indeed an enormous Cosmic evolutionary step that is occurring all over the world right at this moment. And somehow as I experience the events happening now in Japan, I can feel my heart opening very wide. My brother asked me if I
felt so small because of all that is happening. I don’t. Rather, I feel as part of something happening that much larger than myself. This wave of birthing (worldwide) is hard, and yet magnificent.

Thank you again for your care and Love of me,

With Love in return, to you all,

Young American woman living in Sendai

WHOA Baby#11 - Stop and Appreciate YOU

I heard a real WHOA Baby at the 100th celebration of International Women’s Day last week. There were speakers from all over the country talking about how women have become more powerful. One area of our lives where we give up our power is in the way we feel about our bodies. This is a quote from Tamilee Webb of Exercise TV and famous video series “Buns of Steel.”

“Ninety-seven percent of Women do not like something about their bodies!!!”

Tamilee mentioned that when she was in her twenties, she did not like her body. Now that she is in her 50s, she would love to have that 20 year old body. When will we learn to love our bodies??? When you do not feel good about yourself, no matter how hard you try, you do not bring good energy onto the planet. This means that everybody loses because you don’t like the way you look! How can you be in your true womanly power if you are concerned about cellulite or looking fat or or or??? The list is quite huge as you know.

You are a beautiful soul that has a beautiful spirit and juicy body to go with it. It does not make anyone happy that you are not happy with you.

Call to Action: Take 30 seconds right now to identify something you love about the way you look. Find at least 3 ways to accent that body part in the next week.

This is for your happiness, all the people in your life, AND our world! Yes We Can overcome the insanity of women not recognizing the power of their own beauty.

WHOA Baby #9: Beliefs That Drive our Behaviors

I just returned from the Women Information Network (WIN) celebration of 100 Years of International Woman’s Day yesterday on March 8th.

On this WHOA Baby Wednesday, I share this quote from the San Francisco Convention Center event. WHOA Babies are those short sound bites that you read or hear that make you stop and consider a new view on life and may even make you say “WHOA Baby! We have to pay attention here.” How about this gem from my interview with Marci Lock, Transformation Coach, who is a perfect example of how powerfully spiritual women have moved into the world. Check out her website to BE inspired, MarciLock.com. You can listen to the interview and hear all of her wisdom from our International Women’s Day interview tomorrow on CoachBettyLIVE.com. Here is what fitness and nutrition expert Marci Lock has to say:

“80% of what you tell yourself, you believe. Only 20% of what you hear from others, you believe.”

This is how we can change the world! Do you feel it? This is awesome news as we DO have complete control of what we think which leads to what we believe. So how about believing in the possibility of Living an Organic and Orgasmic Life and creating it.

What would that look like in your life?

WHOA Baby #8 - Living with Positive and Abundant Energy

Here is a quote from the website TheSensualLife.com.

“Orgasm is the basis of all life. It is the most powerful energy that lives within every single one of us, and between us when we come together in sensual relationships. In popular culture, we have labeled the climax of a sexual experience an “orgasm” – and yet, orgasmic energy is much more expansive, available and abundant than in just these moments. Our ability to feel pleasure, sensation, connection, awareness and love is endless when we enter the gateway of our orgasm.”

I add this as a WHOA Baby because many in our culture think about the word orgasm as a private and intimate act which should not be discussed in broad daylight. Words will trigger emotions. When you have an emotional reaction to a word, often the intention of the speaker or author is lost because your brain needs to process the emotion. The next time you hear or read the word orgasm, take a deep breath and smile. See if you can feel the positive and abundant nature of it.

I love this quote as it reinforces the fact that orgasmic energy is available to us far beyond the bedroom. Could you use some extra positive energy in your life? Well guess what…you’ve got it right there inside you.

Thank you Monica Day, of TheSensualLife.com, for your visionary approach to our innate positive and abundant orgasmic energy.

 

 

WHOA Baby #6: Is it true that Menopause is a Sex Drive Killer?

How do women continue to live the Organic and Orgasmic life going through menopause?

Here are survey results from WebMD newsletter on women and menopause.

About half of women report reduced sex drive around the time of menopause, even though they believe it important to maintain an active sex life. Menopausal symptoms, such as vaginal dryness and pain during sex, may make sex less comfortable. But the hormonal changes of menopause are only part of the picture. An aging woman concerned about her sex drive should also consider the quality of her relationship, her body image and self esteem, medications she is taking, and her physical health.”

What do you hear when you read this? What I hear and the reason it made it as one of my WHOA Babies is that women need to fall in love with themselves to continue their sex drive through the ages. Vaginal dryness may occur, and I believe does occur because that is what we are told time and time again. I am here to tell you that it has not been my experience in menopause. I have gotten juicier as I have aged because I understand my body and the power of it.

It’s February and the month we focus on LOVE. My request to you is to make it about self-love, not relationship love. You may have heard me say it before…LOOK YOURSELF IN THE MIRROR EVERYDAY AND SAY “I LOVE YOU, I REALLY REALLY DO.” Everyday for the rest of the month…try it ladies. When we have inner happiness and peace, guess what…everyone around us is more at peace and happy.

Stay tuned to learn more about my teleseminar on Peace, Passion and Pleasure coming soon. It will be chocked full of ideas and ways for women to fall in love with themselves every time they look in the mirror!