Monthly Archives: August 2011

ARTICLE: Tapping into Your Inner Juice

  By Admin | August 31, 2011 - 12:00 pm |
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The vision of "Living an Organic and Orgasmic Life" is about the transformative natural healing that happens when you live your life going with the flow (organically) and squeezing the juice (orgasmically) from  every moment. 
 

When we tap into our pleasure centers and experience the contentment and peace that lives there, we have the potential to create such lofty visions as world peace. John Lennon imagined organic and orgasmic living.  I believe that deep down in our inner sanctums of truth, we want to "Make Love Not War." Call me an optimist…I surrender as charged. The fear that shields our minds and bodies from the essence of orgasmic living is only a mask.

My journey of discovery and finding organic and orgasmic living came from the mask of a chronic pain condition. My health, for the last 26 years, has been on a roller coaster of mild to severe pain with very few pain-free days overall. You would not have a clue from looking at me unless you notice the swelling on my hands, or witness me getting up and down off the floor. I have worn my mask well.

Do we always have to go through pain to get to the pleasure? Many experts believe that it is when we are uncomfortable, that we have the compelling reason to consider another way. Until we are willing to look at the truth of our pain, the pleasure will go unnoticed.

When I finally learned to surrender to pain, I was shocked to find the pleasure lives right there along side of it.  My initial experience finding the pleasure came through surrendering to the pain and seeking another way, besides pharmaceutical medication, to find relief.  It came during a sexual healing experience when I went from a 10 on the pain scale to a 2 after having numerous orgasms during sex.  My body moved easily and gracefully for about 4 hours after. It didn't last though. So I began to experiment with the fact that the orgasmic-ness lived inside of me. Could I recreate that sensation in my body outside of the bedroom?  And the answer is yes, and that is what has birthed this movement towards natural healing through inner beauty and sexuality.  

What does it take to explore this for yourself? 

  • You must get out of your head and into your body.  It is impossible to tap into your inner juice by thinking about it. It just doesn't work. For women, this is not always the easiest thing to do either. During sex, if you have that overactive mind (and you are not alone) let your mind drift to the sensation place. What do you feel on your skin? Walk outside and feel the air on your face, and just notice.
  • Your experience of inner sexuality is greatly enhanced when you feel your inner beauty. When a woman feels her inner beauty, an inner sexuality naturally flows out. This is not beauty from the outside only…this is an inner place of loving yourself that assures you that you are a beautiful being. Think of the last time you noticed something that was so beautiful it made you react with a deeply felt "Ah."  In that moment, you have tapped into inner juice. So find something that really touches you…a beautiful photo, painting, friends, family, flowers, trees, a sunset…it is everywhere.  And then look in your eyes, and find it there too.
  • Once you have experienced a moment of tapping into your inner juice,  feel it. Where is it located inside your body? I can guarantee that it is not in your head.  Some of my clients have found it in their hearts, others in their lower abdomen, and still others in their solar plexus. 

Enjoy the experience of exploring and learning about your inner magnificence that is the natural truth of who you are…

 

What other ways can you share for tapping into inner juice?

FINDING THE FUNNY - Women’s Sexual Satisfaction - NOT

  By Admin | August 29, 2011 - 10:25 am |
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A man wakes up in the hospital bandaged from head to foot.  

The doctor comes in and says, "Ah, I'm glad to see you've regained consciousness.  You probably won't remember, but you were in  a huge pile-up on the freeway.

"You're going to be okay — you'll walk again and everything, but your penis was severed in the accident and we couldn't find it."

The man groans, but the doctor goes on. "You've got $9,000 in insurance compensation coming, and we now have the technology to build a new penis. They work great, but they don't come cheap. It's roughly $1,000 an inch." The man perks up.

"So," the doctor says, "you must decide how many inches you want. I understand that you've been married for over forty years and this is something you should discuss with your wife. If you had a nine-incher before and you decide to invest only in a five-incher now, she might be disappointed. It's important that she plays a role in helping you make a decision."

The man agrees to talk it over with his wife.

The doctor comes back the next day and asks, "So have you spoken with your wife?"

"Yes I have," says the man.

"And has she helped you make a decision?"

"Yes," says the man.

"What is your decision?" asks the doctor.

"We're getting granite countertops."

 

CBL#133 - Hot and Juicy Relationships with Toni De Marco

  By Admin | August 27, 2011 - 10:00 am | , ,
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"Relate>Love>Sex: How to have a Hot and Juicy Relationship Opening to the Love Within," is the book Toni De Marco wrote and she is Coach Betty's special guest on this episode. Communication, or lack of communication, is the biggest obstacle in relationships based on Toni's extensive research and international travels leading workshops on the topic.  As her book title states, healthy relationships always begin with turning to self-love. Her experience, research and teachings stress each individual taking 100% responsibility for their own happiness, fulfillment and even orgasms! Listen in to hear some of her secrets to finding the juice and rekindling the communication so that everybody gets what they want and need.  Click the "listen button" below to hear the whole interview, AND some surprising "WHOA BABY" results out of Stanford University on Who are the Happiest People.

Author, Dr. of Metaphysics, trainer and founder of the Wellness & Sexual Healing Centers, Toni De Marco has an extensive background in psychology, metaphysics, and health.  Her training includes having studied with many of the world's leading wellness and Tantra teachers and she, herself, has worked as a teacher, healer and counselor to both individuals and couples for over 30 years. Ms. De Marco was a top cover-girl in her 20's and acted in scores of television commercials and several films at the same time that she was studying many different holistic and healing technologies.  In her 30's Ms. De Marco wrote an acclaimed health and beauty book, The California Way to Natural Beauty, and also started relationship counseling.  In her 40's, Ms. De Marco segued to writing and producing video and television. In her most recent venture into the Video/DVD arena she created Tantric Partner Yoga, along with Tantra trainers, Robert Frey and Lori Grace Star, as a tool to help couples to develop more intimacy in their relationships through sensual partner-yoga. 

Don't miss her September 8th FREE 75 minute telecall on "5 Simple Secrets to a Hot and Juicy Relationship."  Email [email protected] to get all the details and a FREE ebook from Toni.  

Learn more about Toni's work at RelateLoveSex.com.

ARTICLE: The Good Gossip of Inner Beauty

  By Admin | August 24, 2011 - 9:37 am |
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“Gossip,” as defined by Wikipedia, is idle talk or rumor, especially about the personal or private affairs of others. It derives from the bedroom at the time of childbirth when the pregnant female’s relatives and neighbors (an all female event) would gather and chatter about others outside the birthing room.  The term is often used to refer to the spreading of dirt and excited details of scandals.  On the flip side, gossip can also be used to contribute to social bonding.  With the technology of the computer and internet, gossip can spread in an instant.

 

So what kind of messages about others do we want to spread like wildfire in our world today?  Aw come on, Coach Betty, it is so much fun to talk about other people and get all the juicy details of their struggles! Right?  I say wrong, because I am a part of creating a new positive consciousness, and the drama of negative gossip becomes an obstacle to the needed collaboration in solving the crisis level of problems today. If we are going to live, not just talk about, a new vision of a healthy and balanced planet for people on the planet, then we must STOP the addiction to “needing to know” the inner scum of other people’s life.  We are human, after all, and not a single one of us can claim perfection to my knowledge. So would you like your dirty laundry hanging in the air?

 

Women created the word for gossip, and now I want to invite and encourage women to foster the good gossip that is an actual path to inner beauty. I love playing with the positive sides of what words mean.  How can we turn “gossip” into that social bonding experience that creates good juice on the planet and spreads near and far with a click?

 

For starters:

 

  • Taken from an old saying my mother drummed into my head “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.”
  • When you share anything at all about another, evaluate where the information comes from.  Does it come from your own personal experience, another person who may or may not have gotten the facts straight, or from a media source.  Remember, it is not illegal to present false news. 
  • When you have spoken about someone who is not present and accounted for, how does it make you feel inside? Do you feel relaxed, calm and at peace or do you feel tense, tight and uneasy?

 

Inner beauty is felt as a peaceful relaxation, and your body knows it if you tune in.  Are you are spreading the good word, or contributing to more chaos and havoc among us? Spread the good word, and let’s take this opportunity to transform the world into what is possible!

 

If you resonating with this article, then YOU are a beautiful soul I want to know about so I can spread the good word about you.  Join my newsletter at CoachBettyLIVE.com by entering your name and email in the upper right hand corner of this page, and/or “Like” my fan page at www.facebook.com/coachbetty, and let me know more about you. Who knows, you may just end up on the radio with CoachBettyLIVE.

 

 

 

 

 

CBL#132-Gratitude and Inner Beauty with editor, Brenda Knight

  By Admin | August 20, 2011 - 1:47 pm | ,
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What happens when a woman practices gratitude until it becomes a way of life?

She becomes emboldened (I love that word) to say what's on her mind. Gratitude is a virtue, according to my special guest Brenda Knight, which allows you to see the good in life. Brenda shares her "gratitude adjustments" and her personal story of tragedy that opened the door to a daily gratitude practice. Would you like to transform Fear into Courage, Anger into Forgiveness and Isolation into Belonging?  That is what is possible through the authentic feeling of gratitude. Click on the "Listen" button below to hear Brenda's amazing story and wisdom, AND hear Laura from the SF Bay Area go deeper with her own inner beauty after working with Coach Betty live "on air."

Brenda Knight is a twenty-year publishing veteran, starting at HarperCollins and authored American Book Award-winning Women of the Beat Generation, Wild Women and Books, Rituals for Life, The Poetry Oracle, and the forthcoming Happiness Habits.

 

She has worked with many bestselling authors including Diane di Prima, Phil Cousineau, Daphne Rose Kingma, BJ Gallagher, Congresswomen Jackie Speier, Mary Jane Ryan, and Paolo Coehlo.  Founding editor of Viva Editions, Knight lives in the San Francisco Bay Area, where she practices gratitude daily. She is founding editor of VivaEditions.com.

 

ARTICLE: Honoring Male/Female Differences

  By Admin | August 17, 2011 - 12:09 pm |
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Have you ever experienced an encounter with the opposite sex where you felt like you were communicating so precisely, in direct language, and your intentions were completely misconstrued? Okay…it is a rhetorical question.  How can we learn to understand and honor our differences with love, compassion and an open heart?  My intention with the following essay on men and women is to open the conversation in a healthy way.

Masculine and Feminine characteristics are clearly very different energies.  A man who exudes strong masculinity is often a lone wolf, independent, competitive, physically strong, forgetful, logical, tough, and acutely self aware.  And what I mean by acutely self aware is a focus on taking care of his needs without consideration of what his female companion might need.  Some call this self-centered, and I don’t as it is too negative for the many good things about taking care of your own needs.

What you will notice with a women who lives from an extreme feminine place is a gentle collaborator, nurturing, loving, adapting, empathizing with a relaxed receptivity to change.  Often women are co-dependent because they receive what comes to them with the intention of nurturing and loving it back into balance.  It’s a woman’s intuition that allows her to feel what is out of balance.  The generous way a woman serves in this capacity is a beautiful thing. However, if a woman is not tuned into her own needs and inner nature or intuition, life can easily become unhealthy in relationship with a man. 

 

This is far from an exhaustive list of characteristics, and yet the stark contrast of  energies is apparent. We all carry both energies within, and each person has a unique spot on the spectrum from extreme masculine to extreme feminine. From the extremes noted here, it is a no wonder women lose their identity in relationships, and men are so confused by women and their flip flop behavior.

 

From this woman’s perspective, I have displayed the feminine characteristics noted above for most of my life.  I want a man to honor all the aspects of my softer and nurturing approach to life and relationships. My experience is that men love my femininity during sensual and sexual times, and then “don’t get too emotional on me now” can be the refrain when I have overextended my empathizer and need some time to recenter myself. 

 

As I understand men and their energies, I see a strength in mind and body men possess that is calming and peaceful to my inner soul. There is a determination that I admire from the toughness and competitive male stance.  Forgetfulness is a vulnerable and innocent place that has a sweet honesty.  These are the perceptions and attitudes I am embracing to fully appreciate and love our amazing men.

 

We need to take responsibility individually for the impact of our own true nature and rebalance ourselves. The world needs our best efforts. I am curious how our communication would change with the ability to stand in each other’s shoes, and see the positive side of our opposing characteristics?

 

What do you do to honor others?